Abuse begins with emotional abuse
Economic Abuse & Isolation follow
Sexual Abuse is next
Use of the children follows
Threats and Promises 
Male Privilege extends the hopelessness 
Intimidation to control her
Isolation: she is alone, hopeless, friendless and suicidal

Putting her down, making her feel bad about herself, calling names, making her think she is crazy, playing mind games, humiliating her, making her feel guilty. 

Are you, or someone you care about, inside that sentence? 
Get out!  Help her OUT! 

Preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an allowance, taking her money, not letting her know about or have access to family income. 

If you earned it, it belongs to you until you choose to share it. 
If you cannot earn it, you cannot be free. 
Learn how to EARN by calling Cameron University's Student Advisement Office at (580) 581-2391 or (580) 581-2244. 

Become a person who chooses to give and share to a family that is nourishing and supportive of both males and females. 

Treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the "master of the castle," being the one to define men's and women's roles. 

This is 15th century thinking.  I have a personal belief about who is the head of the household.  That belief was learned and I have certainly exercised a role that brought our family through some tough times.  My wife agrees with me that I should make certain decisions and I agree with her that she gives me permission to do that.  So?  The point is this: We share the responsibility and the consequences.  No person on earth is more concerned with the success of a husband than his wife.  No man on earth should be more concerned with the success of a wife than the husband.  Whenever that relationship changes, the bonds between the wife and husband begin to weaken.

Making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass her, threatening to take the children away.

Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her, threatening to leave her or commit suicide or to report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things.

Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures; smashing things, destroying her property, abusing pets, displaying weapons.

Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes, limiting her outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions.

Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn't happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying she caused it.

Contact Dr. Braley to arrange a Violence Seminar for your group.

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